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He was recalled from wit to wisdom, not by any reproof of her’s, but by his own sensibility.” ~ Jane Austin (Sense and Sensibility)

So much is written and made of Valentine’s day that there may be as many perspectives as there are people. My own take on it is not the intent here, as I have put my personal reflections on relationships aside this year in my blog. I spent a good deal of time on it last year and am endeavoring to offer some positive messages in life this year. Toward that goal I would like to share some perspectives on Valentine’s Day, Love or Relationships I can appreciate and have gathered over the last couple of weeks leading up to today. I think they are a helpful collection in wit and wisdom. A particularly good article I thought can be found here:

Beating the Valentine’s Day Blues: Redefining Intimate Relationships Success

Another positive message appeared in my local newspaper, which I clipped and scanned to offer it here. It has a religious angle offered by a local pastor, but offers some inspirational thoughts on the Rewards of Love being worth the risk.

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Some additional links of wit & wisdom for your viewing pleasure:

A Valentine for movie fans (From The Carpetbagger  Blogs – NY Times)
How Valentine’s Day Can Ruin Your Relationship (From Psychology Today)
On Display: The Museum of Broken Relationships (Design Observer Group)
A Collection of Curious Valentines (The Scrap Album – Drawing Room Archive)
The Enchanted Cottage – 1945 (Watch the film here on viooz.eu)

Finally, I liked the following collection of wisdom and guidance. You’ll forgive me if I edited it a bit and cherry picked what I thought was best here. I think this offers some reasonable advice if you happen to be feeling blue this Valentine’s day and lamenting on a past relationship:

Actions that lead to a better place

1.) There is life — and love — after heartbreak. 

2.) Forget closure. You’re never going to hear what you need or want to hear; there will always be gray areas you won’t understand. Don’t keep the wound open by seeking resolution.

3.) Cut off all contact. If you check in with your ex every once in a while, you relive the whole relationship, want it back and make it harder for yourself to move on.

4.) Allow yourself to wallow (for a bit) – give yourself time to come out of the victim phase.

5.) Stop the drama. Remember that this is not a tragedy; it is a bad moment in your life, and it will pass.

6.) Forgive your ex — and yourself. Be grateful for the time you had together. Let it go.

7.) Practice gratitude. Be grateful for what you do have: your friends, your home, your job, your health.

8.) Turn negative thoughts into positive statements. You will stop missing your ex. You will meet someone new.

9.) Reinvent yourself. This is a time to figure out what you want for yourself in life as well as in a mate. Explore the things you enjoy.

10.) Raise your standards. Remember all the things you dreamed of having in a relationship and go after them.

11.) Enjoy nature. Take a hike, go to the seaside. Being in nature is calming and stokes creativity.

12.) Be kind to yourself. Do yoga. Meditate. Go to the gym. Volunteer. Clean your home. Get rid of the toxic people in your life.

13.) Do joyful things. Travel. Explore your city. Have adventures with friends. Don’t go hunting for a new love; just live and have fun.

14.) When you relapse into missing your ex, a particularly potent danger around milestones and holidays, remind yourself of all the reasons you’re grateful to not be with him or her anymore.

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 ♥ Well, that’s what I have to offer in wit & wisdom today – Happy Valentine’s Day!

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